8 Things to Say to Someone When They’re Stressed

PUBLISHED Jun 11th, 2020 & UPDATED ON Feb 27th, 2025

At this point, “stressed” feels like a default setting. Whether it’s the world, work, school, finances, relationships, or just life in general, stress can be overwhelming—and, honestly, exhausting. But, having a strong support system can make a big difference.

Being there for someone is the first step. The next is knowing what to say, which can be tricky since stress looks different for everyone. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, but offering support in the right way can help lighten the load.

To help you get started, we’ve compiled a list of 8 things to say to someone when they’re stressed.

1. “You’re not alone.”

Stress can feel isolating, but reminding someone they’re not alone can be powerful. Let them know you’re there to listen, to sit with them, or just to exist alongside them. Sometimes, that’s all they need—to feel seen, heard, and supported.

2. “I’m your #1 fan!”

Encouragement can go a long way, especially when stress makes everything feel overwhelming. In times of need, words of encouragement can motivate those we love to keep going when times get tough. Let them know you’re in their corner, cheering them on. A simple text, a sticky note on their desk, or a quick voice memo can remind them that they have someone who believes in them—even on the hard days.

3. “It’s ok to take a break.”

Stress can make people feel like they have to keep pushing, even when they’re running on empty. If you notice someone heading toward burnout, gently remind them that rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity (and really healthy for you). Taking a break doesn’t mean they’re falling behind; it means they’re taking care of themselves so they can keep going.

(And if someone asks why you’re taking a pause on that big project, just tell them: “I WAS ON A BREAK!”—cue Ross Geller’s voice.)

4. “How can I help?”

You: Can I help you with anything?

Them: No, I’m ok. Thanks.

You: Alright, let me know.

This is an exchange we’ve likely all had. Instead of asking, “Do you need help?”—which often leads to a polite but automatic “I’m fine”—try asking, “How can I help?”

This small shift makes it easier for them to accept support. Maybe they need someone to pick up groceries, proofread an email, or just sit with them for a bit. Whatever it is, let them know you’re ready to step i

5. “Your feelings are valid.”

When someone is stressed, the last thing they need is for their feelings to be dismissed or minimized. Even if you don’t fully understand what they’re going through, show them you respect their experience. Let them know it’s okay to feel how they feel—without judgment, without fixing, just holding space for them.

6. “You’ve done it before! You can do it again.”

When stress clouds everything, it’s easy to forget how capable we are. Remind them of the times they’ve faced challenges and come out the other side. They’ve navigated tough situations before, and they have the strength to do it again. Sometimes, all it takes is a shift in perspective, like how they view failure and success.

7. “Focus on one thing at a time.”

Work, appointments, groceries, bills — when stress piles up, even the smallest tasks can feel impossible. Help them break things down—one task, one hour, one step at a time. Suddenly, the to-do list feels a little less daunting, and they can tackle things with a clearer head. If “one thing at a time” still feels like too much, scale it back: one minute, one deep breath, one small win.

8. “I’m here if you want to talk.”

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is simply create space for someone to share—without interruption, without problem-solving, without judgment. Just listening can be incredibly healing (and we have tips on how to become a better listener, too!). If they need to vent, let them. If they need silence, sit with them. Being there, in whatever way they need, can make all the difference.

We all experience stress—it’s part of being human. But knowing how to support each other can make the tough moments feel a little less heavy. Whether it’s a few words of encouragement, a reminder to rest, or simply showing up, your support can mean more than you realize. And don’t forget: the same kindness you show others? You deserve that too.