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    Written by DiveThru Team

    Reviewed by Natalie Asayag MSW, LCSW

    How To Teach Kids To Love Their Bodies

    Published Jan 7th, 2021 & updated on Mar 19th, 2021

    Kids don’t start thinking about how their body looks until someone points out something “wrong” with it (we’re gonna use a lot of air quotes in this article by the way, so BUCKLE UP!). No five-year-old kid looks at themselves in the mirror and sees “too much” or “too little” of anything unless they’re taught to see themselves that way. Which is probably why you’re here, trying to figure out how to teach kids to love their bodies!

    We’re stoked this is on your mind, because it’s also on our minds. It’s really important to teach kids to love their bodies at a young age. That way, when they’re faced with comparison or with the idea that how they look “isn’t right,” they’ll be confident and prepared to deal with future negative comments and not take them to heart. 

    There’s been a shift in messages from the media (finally!!) that suggests people should love themselves as they are and should deconstruct the previous negative messages they’ve been told about their body. Notice we said a shift, not an overhaul. Those negative messages are still there so why not teach kids to love themselves unconditionally at a really young age? Let’s do it before those negative messages get too indoctrinated into a person’s belief system!

    But how do we do that? We’ll tell you!

    1. Don’t Say Negative Things About Yourself

    It can be hard to look in the mirror and not pick yourself apart. For years, you’ve been told that a person should look a certain way because society tells us what that “normal” or “standard” body is supposed to look like. Except there’s nothing standard about those images. It’s all a lie. If you’ve given birth, you’ve probably seen commercials or ads for creams and oils that reduce the appearance of stretch marks, or magazine covers telling you how to get back to your pre-baby body. 

    It can be hard to change the voice that’s in your head, but try your best to do that. Your kids will look at you and see how you view and treat your body. They’ll mirror your actions and your attitude towards yourself.

    Show your kids that you need time for yourself too! Do some self care, set some boundaries with your kids, and show them that it’s important to put yourself first sometimes. When you show them how important it is to care for yourself, your kiddos will grow up understanding that as well.

    If you show that you love yourself, your kids will follow your lead and treat themselves with love too! It sounds really simple, but it’s really effective.

    2. Teach Loving Self Talk

    You know how we mentioned that little voice in our heads that loves to pick us apart? Well, we want to teach our kids to ignore that negativity and fill them with positive messages!

    When your child is faced with a challenge, teach them to encourage themselves, believe in themselves, and have the confidence that they can overcome whatever is in their way!

    3. Give Them Praise

    This is a great way to show your child that you’re proud of them! This will make them feel super warm and fuzzy inside because praise shows them that they did a good job and made you proud!

    However, you should be mindful of a couple of things:

    Don’t over-praise: praising them too much kind of diminishes the purpose of praise in the first place. It starts to sound empty and fake after a while. If your kid does poorly at a soccer match, say something like, “I know you had a rough game today, but I’m still really proud of you for trying your best. That’s all that matters.”

    Don’t only praise results: if your child comes home with an A on a quiz, amazing! Great for them! But don’t just praise the result of their efforts. Praise their efforts too. Did they have a good attitude about losing a game? Did they try really hard on a project or practice their guitar a lot for a recital? Praise the work that they put into something, not the end result.

    4. Make An “I Love Myself” Jar

    Every day, have your kids write down something that they love about themselves on a piece of paper. Then, put it in a jar. You can decorate this jar howeeeevverrr they want to make it fun and special for them to have. At the end of every week, or every two weeks (you get to decide when to do this), you can open up the jar and read all the really nice things that your kids wrote about themselves.

     Not only are they reinforcing self love every day, but they get a jackpot of love when they read all their messages all at once! They’re reminded why they’re so awesome and why they love themselves every single day! Eventually, they’ll begin to hold onto those messages and keep them inside as they face a world that tells them the way they are is not good enough. They’ll remember why they’re good enough because of this exercise!

    5.  Watch Videos On Self Love And Self Esteem Together

    Watching other people talk about self love and self esteem might make your kid realize, “Hey, this is an actual thing and not something that my parents made up!” It gives it a little bit more gravity and legitimacy to the concept you’re trying to teach. 

    YouTube is a fantastic resource that’s full of awesome videos about this subject. They have tons of videos for kids and parents on just about anything you can think of!

    We did some YouTube deep diving of our own and found some videos on self love that might be a good place to start for your family:




    Hopefully these tips and resources help you teach your kids how to love who they are and how they are. We know that they’re amazing, kind, smart, talented, and loving kids. Now, it’s just time to help them see that for themselves!

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